Spank My Bum

Hi there you are welcome to Spank My Bum :) - The fun fetish site devoted to spanking, spankers and all that is BDSM and Bondage.

People have become quite liberated about sex. Television and Magazines talk freely about sexual subjects and how they can improve a marriage or help you become more comfortable with your sexuality; and while you don’t exactly talk about sex all night at dinner parties, you won’t be seen as a kinky pervert if you do just for a while!

However, there is some remaining suspicion against S&M, Bondage, BDSM, Spanking and the like. Maybe because pictures of bondage can look a little extreme: thin straps of leather, whips and chains, shiny boots with lethal looking heels, all designed to transform your bedroom into what may seem like a Medieval torture chamber. But there’s nothing “torturous” about it, despite preconceptions that this sexual fetish involves pain and humiliation. The fact is that S & M involves a great deal of trust between partners. Nobody humiliates anyone; in fact, they’re a lot more sensitive to each other’s needs and cues than many people who do the whole “wham bang thank you maam” thing.

Spanking and S & M can actually feel liberating for someone who has a hard time relaxing during straight sex, or can’t “let go” during the process. And remember, one advantage of being handcuffed to a bed is that he or she can literally sit back and be pleasured without having to give anything in exchange. What’s so painful about that?

But what about those collars and constricting apparel? It’s not to hold someone back—the combination of pleasure and tension can be pretty mind blowing and add to the sense of excitement. Think of it this way: remember how it feels like when You’re sitting at the edge of your seat, heart pounding, fists clenched, ready to scream, but holding your breath instead in anticipation? Is that painful? No, it’s part of the fun, and to some degree, it’s the tension that is in the foreplay of S&M. You’re holding yourself back, so the adrenalin builds, and you get to build up the excitement and the passion for an “extreme release”.

The toys of spanking, bondage and BDSM aren’t even that extreme, when you think about it. It’s just dress up. The harnesses are little retro, and too the whips, they’re also easier to hide than some other sex products. It’s just gotten a bad reputation. And before you knock it, try it once—you may find out you like it.